We’re Fighting – It Must Be Holy Week

She found the note on the counter Wednesday morning — a sticky note from her husband that simply said, “Miss you.” By then, he had already left for church. She didn’t even hear him leave. She stood there for a moment, note in hand, realizing there were things she had meant to ask him, things she needed his help with.

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Being married to a pastor is a meaningful and often beautiful calling — but Holy Week has a way of pulling us in opposite directions, causing a rift in our team, before we even realize it’s happening. The pace quickens, expectations rise, and the weight of the season becomes very real. This is holy work, and it often comes with real pressure.

Before we proclaim the hope of Easter to others, we must receive it ourselves and then can overflow with grace towards our spouse and family. Ponder the truth of Christ’s resurrection throughout today. Let that hope settle deeply into our own hearts — not just as a message to deliver, but as a reality to live.

Let’s start with, before the week gets away from us, one of the most loving things we can do. We can talk — honestly and early. Look at the calendar together. Name what is coming and ask each other what you need. What will be the hardest moments? Where might we need extra grace? Who is available to help fill in the gaps? When can we schedule a time to reconnect? Planning ahead allows us to build the kind of teamwork that carries us through.

As we go, let’s prioritize rest where we can and make space to be alone with God, even briefly. When we’re running low, let’s take heart that we can seek help from the Holy Spirit to be slow to speak, quick to listen, and slow to anger. Let’s give each other grace when we fall short, releasing the pressure of impossible expectations so we can stay focused on the joy of what Christ has accomplished. And let’s look around — God has placed us in His family with others for support and shared purpose. We do not have to carry this alone.

And when Easter Sunday has passed, remember the resurrection is not just for a season —it is for life. Let’s pray for one another that God will renew and refresh us with that hope as we step into the days ahead.